Mickey

So she'll content, happy, etc. for days, and then BOOM! Suddenly she wakes up lethargic, spacious and just moody. Doesn't really talk to me either. I'm not home much most days and she stays home with 2 kids, so i don't blame her. She us taking counseling once a week and is working on strategies. But it's so weird how she just flips after a good or so-and-so say; makes me feel like I am the issue. Yesterday we had a discussion about it and she says it's a lot of reasons beyond me and says it's primarily on her end, namely her feeling bad about being on her phone a lot when I am not home, etc. And today, she just said she is going to do away with her phone; and that includes the our daily texting. Usually she texts me when I get to work, talks to me throughout the day, and still: nothing. 8 hours later. How does this help anything? Yet her son's baby daddy calls throughout the day to ask about his son, and she is sure to answer to him and anyone else who reaches out. Just Instagram, FB, in particular, she aims to cut out. So why am I expected to just be out completely? Does this sound like an excuse targeting me? 

Basically, her Mom has a history of being a stripper, having some type of relationship with "clients" and is bi-sexual is in a three-way relationship with her friends (married man and female) as well as with her own bf at home. She is also now the grandmother of my 3month old. My gf stays home with the baby and her 4yo and fills her day with pretty much what she wants to do. Lately, she has been with her Mom a lot more while I'm at work all day, and even now she leaves our baby with her mom for a bit while she steps out to go shopping or do a few errands. When she tells me they r together, my gf takes longer than usual to text back (45min-2hr) on her behalf yet is seen on facebook messenger logging in like every 5-10 mins and still doesn't bother to talk. Sometimes her mom will call her and have my gf cover her while she goes on a date with other dudes in case her main bf calls and asks about her whereabouts. Let's just say she's not of the most integrity. I guess I'm writing this to see if maybe her mom's tendencies could reflect on her and thus what we have or just comments on how you guys would feel about it 

Yeah, so good with my woman yet i am around a lot of attractive women at work daily. It is not my intention to "check them out" or have thoughts about them but then my mind wanders involuntarily. I am working on stopping it but seems to be a hard habit? Is this normal? In 26 already 

Sometimes my gf is curious as to why I'm silent on the couch (thinking of course) or why I'm not really into being 'mr. Lovey dovey' as though head over heels. Or, why I choose not to text back for a few hours rather than text or call back immediately. But it certainly isn't unilateral in that sometimes  unbeknowst does the same. Is it normal to feel like sometimes not really into a partner? Like, just not in the mood to be in the best presentable love mode (i guess?) 

Yeah, i have my own life--job, social life--so I'm not just sitting around dwelling on our texts while away. But i have noticed that she does this to me a lot. She takes hours to respond, given that she primarily initiates texting. Yet she'll be Facebook while she doesn't respond, as Active Now shows it or was active 3 mins ago or whatever. I have asked her why do you text me but show no interest (or what appears so) in conversing with me throughout the day? And she always has a bogus answer like "sorry, i forgot you texted me" or "i had started the text and thought I had sent it out"..my favorite is, "my [friend] messaged or video chatted me and I left the app open after i got off." Often, I feel like she just wants to make sure I'm at work or something so can do whatever she is doing. Has anyone ever been cheated on and found out in this sort of fashion? Lol 

Could be cookies or something. I've deleted all of my History, and it still comes up in the search bar if I start typing it. Also, I'll delete History again, and the initial prompt window saying "this site/these sites seem important to you" and (again) lists the site again or link again. How do I permanently delete this bastard?

My resume is concurrent with what I have as of today. I am trying to land a good biology, chem, biotech, MLT job. I have an Associate degree and a biotechnology certificate. I don't have a whole lot of experience outside of college but i still try. In my city, most jobs want at least a Bachelor's, and this makes it hard to compete! But i still put in apps anyway (hoping someone will give me a shot anyway with Bachelor's level incumbents). I use ZipRecruiter extensively because it informs me on how many times my resume has been viewed, percentage of applicants likely to be reached out to after X amount of views, etc. And lately I have been applying to a lot of biology, chem, biotech jobs, and they get viewed a lot! I've even had many interviews over phone! But then they go cold on me only for me to see that the job listing has been closed...do you guys think I even have a chance competing with people with a degree of education ahead of me? What are some things to boost my chances in the event of competing anyway? Thanks! 

Right now he weighs only 22 pounds and is 33 inches tall. His doctor said she wasn't too worried about his height and weight at the inception of his 1st appointment even though he wasn't on the height-weight curve for about a year. Since last month, he finally hit the curve! But before this he had been 18-19 pounds for months and only 28 inches for months as well. Even in his school classroom everyone says how cute he is and how small he is, as he is the smallest toddler there. I just feel worried that he will stay tiny. Has anyone else's toddler(s) been small and petite early on and finally 'caught up'? 

Just wondering if this happens to women involuntarily. She doesn't really have many friends and is always on either FB or Instagram. Yet she is virtually inseparable. While I'm at work we text each other throughout the day and sometimes it takes her hours to text back with reasons like "sorry, didn't realize u had texted me," or "i thought i replied but guess didn't send out the message". Yet, for instance, she'll be on FB during those instances and log on and off. Sometimes i get home late and she is more focused on scrolling through her feed on Instagram than interaction. Like this morning, she woke up and didn't really say good morning or anything, but was quick to get to her phone on the charger and log on to either IG or FB. Is social media and phone attachment just that interesting? Is it viewed as something you can't live w/out?

Why cant women figure out how to make themselves happy or at least happier? They troll around negative as **** and make your life miserable too. It's been a long *** time since my girlfriend has just gotten up and said "aww feels good to be alive. I'm happy you're here and the kids make me happy." Its always reluctance for her to do anything and often projects her livid emotions onto me...like i cant solve the way you feel for everything. And yet she is quite unmotivated to seek real help for herself and commit to it. What the hell do i do 

So yeah. Just thinking back on some times where I wasn't expecting any kind of hooking up to go down on the 1st night hanging out, and that's when these chicks would definitely drop da ball on me. They'd say come inside u can stay the night or whatever or one time i was partying and a chick who was friends wit the host of the party later on woke me up after i was faded n crashed the **** out and wanted me to make a move on her---n she was fine--but i wasnt thinkin bout it really. But then as i passed on these offers i'd holla at them for another night or nights out n they would just GHOST me or read my **** n never call or text me again. Just wonderin like damn what kinda heads we dealin wit these sayz haha

Last night I got home with my girlfriend ultimately giving me an ultimatum: that I move in with my Mom and son or factor in more time for her and for our home. Basically, I have a 2yo from a previous relationship who needs me a lot. His mother is not in the picture because she is hooked on drugs and doesn't want to change to better for herself and him. My gf and I have been together about 1.5 years. My mother and I made a commitment to help raise him and I honored an agreement with her to try and be at her house every day to pick him up, etc and this happened BEFORE my gf. And I'm still doing so. My gf has moved in with me, and we now have a baby. But now she feels like I am never home due to work and dealings with my 2yo on the daily---and I am home, just not enough the way she wants me to be--and she is feeling left out, "needs aren't being met, feeling unhappy" so basically told me to really think about where our relationship is going. She proposed me moving in with my Mom to facilitate dealings with 2yo and that when I have time I can go be with her just not live with her and son; that newborn will be shared, too. My mother and I have to plan around my 2yo because he has high emotional needs due to trauma at birth and is proven to be DEVELOPMENTALLY (by IFSP) behind to18 months and cannot handle too much back and forth dealings! And my gf is feeling like all my time is for him and not for her and other son. He isattached 2 my mom as a mother so can't just be all about us

Ok. So what I mean by no "real commitments" outside of home life is that she occasionally invites her ex to help out with things for the house, goes out to lunch with friends or her baby daddy, or go to her swinger friends all the time so their kids can play. She gets to pretty do whatever because she doesn't hold a job or commitment to school or anything but has her son and our 3-month-old? Not to mention she uses Instagram, FB, etc and has online access all day long. But she is like obsessed that I check out chicks on the daily and fantasize about them, and I don't understand why she is so insecure about these things when she has so much more freedom in comparison to me. Is it her who probably messes around and is terrified or of me either finding out or losing the upper hand as she feels eventually I'll get her back? No idea. 

She was with him 7 years and they now have a four-year-old. I get it: he's in the picture and it is important that they have a good relationship on behalf of their son. Not a problem. I have expressed to her that what they have is expected since they are both active in his life, but I feel uncomfortable when they decide to go out to lunch together with their son and neither me or his current gf are invited; many times without even being asked how we felt about their doing so. I have expressed to her that I feel that I understand they are friends, but since their relationship ended 2 years ago, we all should commune and be more of a network for him and them. Nearly 1.5 years later, that being the time we've been together, her son is exclusive to our home, and I have yet to even sit down with the guy and his gf, and neither have they offered to at least get to know me (in person)! My gf has a tendency to involve him when I am not around---say, for every day little things like to help move heavy furniture or to help with appointments, etc---and sometimes is inconsiderate about how I feel about when she decides to. For instance, the other day she needed help with her bff to move a new deep freezer into our house, and she asked him last minute if he could come. As I walked into worked and just about after I left home she sends a text saying "he's coming to help really quick", but made no mention of him hanging around inside my house while she went to get it etc 

Ok- so we are a blended family. But sometimes I feel like she has the upper hand in things pertaining to what happens with her son, as my son's mother isn't in the picture, and for good reason.my gf will be at home with 3 month old and is a stay-at-home mom essentially. Her baby daddy always seems to be working when she needs him to take her son for an additional day or so during the week, and usually I'm there, but when I come to work he seems to suddenly be available for things she needs. For instance, she needs moving a freezer up upstairs to our apt. On the 2rd floor, and I'm stuck at work, so can't really help right now...i told her to wait until Saturday. She just texts me now saying that he's coming over to help her and her best female friend move the freezer up...not any concern for me like, " hey, is it ok if he swings by really quick to help me move the freezer? He'll come inside only for that, literally a few minutes." No. It's like "he's coming over to help with the freezer". I just feel like ok i understand hes your son's dad, but is there a line to be drawn? Just feel like she overlooks things because she just wants something s done right away and not like 'hey...i should probably keep him out of this. Im with a new guy now and maybe i can ask someone else or wait til my BF is home Saturday to help, as my BF may not appreciate my ex coming into MY home where my BF pays rent. ' or am I overreacting? 

So we went to a bar tonight and as we were walking in two ugly dudes were obviously goo-goo-ga-ga over at the site of my gf. So we sit down a few tables away but still facing them, and they're obviously still turning around to glance at her and just acting like horn dogs in front of me---the lack of respect in people anymore---and so we're both positioned at our table to where we can lock eyes. Usually my gf is all up in my space or is asking me why I'm so far even though I am not, but for a little bit she was angled out from me and just seemed quite aloof to any validation from me. So I kept looking at her but she just seemed like her eyes were locked at the direction of the guys and seemed like she was staring too. There was a tv on too her way, a bit above the guys at the table, but she wasn't looking upward. Eventually she was validating me more as usual but just confused as to why she'd be glaring their direction. Later, I asked why she was looking over there taking into acct. How creepy the two guys were being, and she just said "just wondering why they were being all weird and idk just felt odd after awhile". 

So, perhaps based on how well I can describe this to you guys, does it sound like she was actually trying to engage them by eye contact to see what they could offer?