Michelle

Okay I asked a question earlier but now I realized I asked the wrong question lol. Ok so my 2000 Honda civic Dx has a horrible shudding problem. It's only when I'm braking, or stopped. It will shudder for about 15 plus seconds then it subsides. I took it to wheel works, they told me I need both new rear bushings and the trailing arm is cracked (I think that's what he said!) Would that be the reason my car shakes so bad? I asked him if that was why and he said "fix it and we'll see...." and I didn't like that. So how much would a job like that cost? he quoted me around 700 plus an alignment and I'd need 2 new tires so it would be around 900... I was hoping that was on the high side, or if it is possible to do it myself somehow. I am the daughter of a mechanic, and if my father was still here he would be helping me. I know I'd need a special tool, but not sure what tool. lol I am somewhat mechanically inclined believe it or not. Anyway thanks for your input!

I just took my 2000 Honda Civic DX to wheel works, my car which has 83,000 miles on it shakes pretty bad when I apply my brake and come to a stop. For about 30 seconds after I stop it shudders then it subsides. They told me I need to replace the wheel bearings for the lower rear... I asked them if that's the reason my car shakes, and they said "fix it and we'll see". I just don't like answers like that. I was just wondering if anyone else had this kind of problem. And how much would a reasonable price to get that done be? I'm a 26 year old chick and don't want to get ripped... I'd kinda like to know what I'm talking about too lol. Anyway any input would be greatly appreciated!

Okay... I'm sure I have issues like other moms. My daughter is 2 1/2 completely healthy, happy and beautiful. But lately I have been having such a hard time leaving her at daycare, or letting her go to her fathers for a few hours. I end up getting anxiety, and thinking morbid thoughts like "what if a car slips and hits her on the sidewalk" I know it sounds bad, but that's what goes through my head. My daughter's father is having such a hard time handling me, and I'm sure I need therapy over it. But it got worse recently, and I'm almost positive it has to do with my father passing away (last month, and we were very close) I'm having such a hard time dealing with my loss, that I feel like I have to cling to my daughter I feel like she could be taken from me if I dont' watch her dilligently. Don't worry I don't keep her in a bubble, we just went camping and she falls and scratches herself all the time, so it's not falling I worry about it, it's just knowing that there are times she is not with me, and it's those times I freak out. I just feel like I know she's safe with me anytime because I'd give my life for her in a second. Anyway if there are any moms out there who can relate, I'd love some feedback.

I have such a long story. Before I get into this please know this is not about money, I lost my father, no amount of money would bring him back or heal the pain that I am in. What I desire most, what will make me feel better is justice. And at 26 I have now made it my mission to make sure that Veterans get the treatment they deserve.

My father passed away a few days ago at 58. He was in the VA Hospital for 8 weeks. He was a diabetic and a few months ago they found a narrowed valve to his heart. He was also on dialysis for failing kindeys. The reason he was there was because of Spinal infection.

Before the infection was found in my fathers spine, he has been to the ER 4 times. Each time he told them he had major pain in his back and side, and they just sent him home with even more medication and told him it was broncitis. My thing is, they knew he was diabetic, infections are common among those with diabetes, why did it take so long them to find that out. I feel like they were always eager to get him out, never did they truly listen,I was there, and I felt neglected for my fathers sake.

Second, while my father was in the ICU, we were suddenly told my father does not have long to live. And we were pressured my more than one doctor in a passive-aggressive way to pull the plug. One doctor had the nerve to come talk to my 19 year old sister who was visiting our father at the time and say "You know your father won't get better. You know your father won't make it" and I'm sorry, this doctor needs to be taught a lesson. For as much money as you make you need to take some classes and learn some bedside manners. We were already told my father would not make it, it was absolutely unnecessary to continuously remind us. They asked us to talk to hospice. They continued to ask "what would your father want?" And excuse me, I love my father to death and beyond, I would not want my father alive against his wishes. But they do not know that at the time, even though he had a breathing tude, he smiled at us, he held our hand, he communicated. He was able to feel happiness. And there was no way in hell that I would take my father off the breathing machine. They just kept at it.

So what happened was early one morning my fathers blood pressure got too low and he passed. My dads blood pressure had dropped before, they were aware of the problem and every time that happened, they would give him medication through an IV and bring it up.

So when this happened I was stunned. It was way too coincidental that he passed that day. Just a day or 2 after I signed a DNR. I only signed the DNR because I did not want my father to have his heart shocked. If God chose to take him, then he took him. But I did not sign a DNR meaning to not give him medication. I felt all along that they were trying to get my dad out of there. I don't like it. It is a feeling in my gut, and I have great instincts. Anyway I have no clue how to go about all this. Like I said, the reason for all of this is for justice. Is for showing the Doctors and VA what happens when you mess with my Papa. Even though he isn't here, I am! And I will fight for his name and I will fight for the justice he was robbed. I cannot save him, but maybe I can save someone else.

I knew my father was terribly sick. I am not naive, I did not expect him to walk out. But I also did not expect to be pressured to pull the plug. I did not expect to be wary of them and their intentions.

My father was hurt in the army years ago, and he has received free medical from them for years. I always worried that money played a factor as well.

If you have ideas for me, I would appreciate it. If you have negative comments please keep them to yourself. I just lost my father, the world lost a great man, of great humor, intelligence and spunk.

I will make this as short as possible.

My father is in the ICU at the Veterans Hospital. He was severely ill and is actually showing gradual signs of improvement. Though lately from a few doctors I have been slightly pressured in a passive aggresive way to "pull the plug". He has been in the ICU for 8 weeks.

My sister is 19 years old, and visits my father every day like myself. My father is 58, and I would never want him to suffer. If his wish was to end his life, then I would never go against his wishing. But for right now, my dad smiles, communicates with us. To me, he seems as happy as can be in that situation. And I would never pull the plug on someone capable of happiness. Anyway like I said my 19 year old sister was with him today and she had a doctor pull her aside and say "you know your father isn't going to get better, he will not leave the hospital" and the thing is, we've been told this, by him numerous times. But the thing is he never speaks to me (I"m 26) or my Mom. He always seems to be "bullying" my sister. I am not a naive person, I know he is ill, I know he will never be 100% better again. But I have think feeling in my gut, that they're trying to push him out. I know that it probably has to do with money because my dad got hurt at a young age in the army and has had free medical since then. But anyway, I have had a few shady doctors that I am concerned about. And the more I read about the VA the more I get concerned. Anyone have any advice on what I should do. I'm starting to log info that the doctors are saying. And the one that keeps bullying my sister I am demanding to speak to him this weekend. I understand telling us once that my dad isn't going to make it, continuously telling my young sister everytime is absolutely unnecessary. So now, I want to speak to the high people. How should I go about all this? Anyone have opinions or suggestions. and please keep your negative comments to yourself. I am hurting like anyone would be with an ill parent. I just want whats best for my dad and I am a person that is willing to fight for it all. No matter who i have to go against. Thanks!

Okay I'm sorry for this long ordeal that I'm about to write, but for those who go through courts know how nerve wracking it can be, especially concerning your child.

My Daughter is almost 2 1/2. Her father has been in her life for most of it. The thing is, he was married when I concieved (he had lied, and I was naive, stupid even) He threatened me, told me to get an abortion, told me I was F'n up his life. I told him to go, that I would take care of the child on my own, I wouldn't ask for a dime. So during my pregnancy he was not around. We started speaking a month before I gave birth. He was there when she was born. He has seen her about once or twice a week. His wife at the time, also had a baby 6 months after me. Regardless I've always encouraged a relationship between my daughter and her half sister. It took me a long time to be comfortable with my daughter going to his house (with his wife there) I was always worried if she was going to be mean to her. Anyway I finally became comfortable with it. For the most part he has our Daughter, M, W,F from 5pm to 8pm and Saturday mornings, 9am to 1pm. That worked for us, so we never went to court. He makes really decent money, but pays me 250 a month. Which is fine, it's not about the money anyway. My daughter is taken care of that's what matters. Anyway so recently, he told me he was going to divorce his wife because he was sleeping with someone else for a while. He also mentioned a story about how he was mad at his new girl, because the night before, he was at her house, they were both naked in bed (drunk too) and her 7 year old son comes in her room, she tells my daughters father to shhh and lets the little boy slide into bed next to her. He had no idea there was a naked man next to his mom, and besides she was married too. So the woman fell asleep, so did the boy and he was left there, not sure whether to leavce and risk the boy waking up seeing a strange man. Okay so anyway, he now has gone on to get a divorce. His wife just moved out, and he has that woman at his house. I told him that I would like him to wait to bring another woman around my daughter. I don't like when people do that, it messes things up for a child. I've dated a bunch the past 2 years, and I have NEVER introduced my daughter to anyone. It's something I take seriously, she is my world and I take it very seriously, I would do anything for her. So he promised me he wouldn't bring her around anyone for at least 6 months. But I just found out he lied. And I am furious. I am more mad at the fact that my daughter is around a woman who would do that to her 7 year old child, and think it's okay! To me, a woman who does that is, sick, and disgusting. To bring your child into a bed with a naked person of the opposite sex, whom they've never met beacuse they're drunk. It just infuriates me. Regardless of the fact that she was drunk, that makes it worse! I worry now who he's bringing my daughter around. And I also know he drinks a decent amount and smokes pot. I doubt he does it with my daughter around, but now I don't know. Things were going smoothly until this. I cannot trust my child around someone who thinks that's okay. So I recently told him we have to go to court and I'm going to fight him. He has his daughter just a few hours every other day, and he can't manage to spend time with just her? He says she's his hightest priority but that's a bunch of bull. He travels most weeks, and it's never a guarantee he'll see her anyway. Anyway that's where I am at, and I am so confused on what to do next. He is not listed on her birth certificate anyway. I told him to sign it but he "forgot". any thoughts or opinions would be greatly appreciated!

I'm a pretty healthy eater, I workout regularly, but now it seems that I get cravings at night. Like 9 or so. I have a 1 year old, so I stay up pretty late (well 11 is late for me lol) because the evening is my only "me" time I have. So it's around this time that I crave unhealthy stuff! drives me nuts.I don't even think I'm even that hungry, it's just I want to taste certain foods. Anyway I was considering maybe drinking green tea, even though I hate tea, maybe it will help? Anyone have any other suggestions?

Two days ago a sparrow flew into my classroom, of course my students freaked out. I picked him up and he had a gash on his head. I stopped the bleeding and took him home. Kept him in the closet at night and the next day I took him to a wild life rehabilitation center, and they said they couldn't treat a sparrow because it wasn't a native species, they told me they'd euthanize him though. I couldn't do it. For some reason I thought I could save him. But he died today and it seriously breaks my heart. Like I cried for hours. And I just want to know if there are others out there who are like me? I understand it's part of life, but I just feel bad knowing something is dying and suffering. I mean I can't even kill a spider! I feel like such a child , I'm 25 and I have a 1 year old and here I am, can't even stop crying when a bird dies. And I can't really even tell anyone because everyone says "it was just a bird" ... yeah but it was a bird, and a living breathing creature... I mourn when anything dies. I wish I wasn't so sensitive, is anyone else? I feel so lame sometimes!

Okay well I have dark brown hair, and my daughter Chloe's father has blonde. Chloe was born with a ton of black hair, and just the last few months (she'll turn 1 next week) her hair seems to be lightening to a medium reddish brown. I'm pretty sure it'll stay the same color but her father seems to think it will still lighten. So we have a bet going on... by the time she's two he thinks her hair will be lighter and I don't think so. But he wants her to be light haired like him and I want her to have dark hair like me :) She already got his light eyes when I was positive she would have my brown lol. Anyway what do you guys think? Think I'll win the bet?

Okay well I have dark brown hair, and my daughter Chloe's father has blonde. Chloe was born with a ton of black hair, and just the last few months (she'll turn 1 next week) her hair seems to be lightening to a medium reddish brown. I'm pretty sure it'll stay the same color but her father seems to think it will still lighten. So we have a bet going on... by the time she's two he thinks her hair will be lighter and I don't think so. But he wants her to be light haired like him and I want her to have dark hair like me :) She already got his light eyes when I was positive she would have my brown lol. Anyway what do you guys think? Think I'll win the bet?

So I lost my remote/clicker and I can't turn off the immobilizer so I'm stuck! Is there anyway to disengage it or just turn it off? It's a 1991 ford crown victoria??? Please help!!!

So my car will not start unless I press a certain button my clicker/remote. I guess it's an alarm but not a loud one, my lights just blink until I press the clicker. But I lost my keys and I have a spare set but I can't start my car because I don't have another clicker/remote. Theres a little light on my dash that blinks, and I thought there was some way to push it a certain amount of times to turn off the alarm/security system... or is there any way to disable it?? I'm totally frustrated and stuck... Anyone know what to do or suggestions... I looked online and couldnt' find anything that would help :( Thanks

There is a little red light on my dash and I thought there's some code to press and it will turn off the security system... I'm super frustrated... can't I just turn it off? I'm stuck and can't go anywhere, and I have a spare set just not another clicker...

Like I said she turns One in January. I wanted to have a birthday party for her, but the thing is I have a huge family (my mom is one of 10 kids) and if I invite one family member I pretty much have to invite all of them. And then I have a pretty big group of friends and their kids that I would also have to invite. I really wanted to have a great party for her, but now that I'm starting to plan it, I'm not so sure if I should have one. It's going to be expensive, big and she won't even remember it. Anyone have their own thoughts or experiences. What should I do? I want to make it memorable for her but I guess she's still so young...

My daughter Chloe will be turning one. I rented a room at a community center for 3 hours. I've been thinking about a theme and Im pretty sure I want it to be ladybugs or bugs. I'd rather not do a princess theme, I'd rather go somewhat original... but I need ideas on what to make? gift bags? decorations? activities? etc, this is my first time throwing a birthday party, I'm 24 and totally lost! Any ideas or help would be greatly appreciated!

My daughter is 10 months old and i want to make her a wooden toy box. I know what I want it to look like, the thing is, i don't know how to create it. I want it like 3 ft by 2 ft and 2 ft deep. What tools do I need? (my dad has a TON of tools) what wood, can I stain it? What paint do I use? Saw? I don't know any of it. And I really really want to prove to everyone that I can build something and I'm not afraid of ruining my french manicure! And I'm naturally artistic so that at least works in my favor. Anyway thanks everyone!

I have a 10 month old little girl, and I admit I have yet to lose the baby weight. I now watch my friend's son who is 2 1/2 to make some money so I can still keep my daughter with me for a bit longer. Anyway I was starting to take them on walks, but now the weather is turning wet and I was hoping to do some kind of workout at home. I have tae bo videos, but I was thinking about jump rope. I actually enjoy it, I put on my music and just do few minute intervals for a while.... Anyway do you think that is good? Or should I do something else? Anyway feel free to drop me some suggestions!

My father has his pilot's license, but now suffers from diabetes and cannot get a health clearance like he used to. But he is able to get a sport pilot's license. I know he is interested in doing that, and I want to help him out. He said he needs to catch up on the regulations, so how do I buy him a book? What book do I buy? What's it called and where can I get it? Anyone else know of anything else I can get him regarding this pilots license... hahaha other than a plane! He's gonna build a kit one. Thanks!!!

I'm just curious, I'm not sure when the average age is for crawling. My daughter was born at 32 weeks (she was almost 6lbs and 18 1/2in) so she was a very healthy preemie. She started crawling at about 7 1/2 months and sat up by herself at around 6 months. She is 8 months now and is pulling herself up on couches and stuff. Is that about normal for a full term, or is she a bit behind because of her prematurity? I'm just curious... When did you child do all of this?

I'm considering that route (Xray tech). I have no college background at all. How long do I have to go to school for? (Including my general ed) anyone have an estimate?