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I have a (not super close) friend that I have known for 8 years. We've both been running into each other a lot more since we've both had break ups around 6 months or so ago. Those relationships were both around the 2 year mark and we didn't live with our partners or anything. His ended badly, where mine did not.

We are the same age, and a few weeks ago I decided to tell him, "I've always had a crush on you and since we are both single now, I'd be remiss if I didnt tell you this. Life is too short and I'd really like to hang out more". Except my confidence at the time came from being drunk, so he seemed to humor me, showed me on his phone that he still had my number, and feeling a little self-conscious, I went home.

After about a week, I hadn't heard from him. He is very old fashioned and doesn't use social media and rarely texts or anything, so I wasn't surprised, but needless to say, the next time I saw him I apologized, shyly, for maybe "being too forward" and I was happy to have him as a friend and I'd still like to hang out more...

I am 36 and my guy best friend of 8 years and I just revealed that we have feelings for each other last year. He has been going through a long distance break up, so we decided to continue our friendship the way it is (no hanky panky), but I guess we have become more "emotionally involved" I can admit.

In January I had some medical problems and things have just cascaded from there. Right now I am in such a crappy financial state - then it was car trouble upon work trouble upon subletting a room in my house and the person not paying the rent!

I realize I have been very negative lately - complaining and venting and crying a lot. At times I see no way out. But now I hear things like, "you need to take responsibility for your life" and when I forget plans to go hiking it's "I guess I'm not important enough to remember", and "you'll get yourself out of this mess you got yourself into"...

I get so angry and defensive! I don't want to play the victim, but it helps when my others friends say things like "you will figure this out, you are super smart and I love you" or "hey I know of a debt consolidation place" - to me that is constructive criticism at least or the kind of support that motivates me to not lie in bed and cry.

At this point I am so stressed because of the thin skin I have feeling like a total loser at the moment. His opinion affects me so much. Is he being overly critical because of our feelings or am I feeling undersupported? I don't want this to ruin us.

Apparently you can become a computer programmer and still somewhat suck at math. Someone smart to the rescue please!!! This should be simple for non-dumb math people like me.

Ok, I need to write an expression like so:

Item A costs $22.00. Item B costs $24.00. After 25 Items the discount is $0.25. After 150 Items the discount stops. I have to write for several items. Supposing there are only two...

So is it like? (ItemA * (22/150)) + (ItemB * (22.150))

Ughh I totally suck please help my brain!

... and don't state the obvious like sex or BJs - he already gets plenty of that!

I have only been seeing this guy for about 4 months or so. He is romantic, sweet, thoughtful, and he takes me on these wonderful trips as well! This last weekend he took me to the hot springs, paid for everything, and even bought me a cute little gift on the way there from some off-the-beaten-path little shop.

He knows how I feel about him. I adore him! And I have no trouble showing my affection for him. But this was our 4th trip where he spent all this money and went to so much trouble for me. I just want to do something nice for him or buy him a unique gift or something to show him how much I really appreciate him and that I think about him, etc.

Words just seem kind of inadequate, and I don't have much money. For Valentine's Day I made him a website and turned him into a superhero LOL, he got a huge kick out of that and liked that I put so much effort into it. How can I top that??? Even if I can't, maybe you guys might have some ideas out there...? I just want to try and make him feel as special as he makes me feel. Thanks for the ideas!

Ok, so my best friend just found out she has breast cancer and needs chemo and a double mastectomy. As effed up as THAT is, her boss is being am utter c-word - criticising her for having to leave work for "lengthy" doctor's visits and whatnot.

Anyway, I happen to have the day off tomorrow and was invited to go out with a bunch of hot guy friends we both know on a lovely boat on the lake. With her upcoming surgery and everything, I just want her to be able to go too and at least enjoy her last summer before the surgery and everything, as we don't often get to do things like this.

The boat thing isn't even scheduled until 3pm. She only works until 5pm. And while I'm confident they would turn around at 5pm to go back and pick her up, I somehow want to be able to get her out of work to come with us.

The only problem is - we are both terrible liars. So I want to be able to get her out of work with some excuse that she can portray as genuine and believe it (so she technically doesn't have to lie) and then let her in on the goodies when she leaves work.

But since I am also a crummy liar, what can I say???

On the other hand, I don't want to make up something that will freak her out or stress her out more. Any ideas???

I keep refreshing Yahoo Answers and it keeps giving me the same questions. I see they have "zero" answers and yet when I click them, they have 14 answers. Then I go back and do it again and again and refresh the page I get the same ones.

Also I am totally ticked at the annoying icons they keep adding to my Yahoo Bar. I didn't add eBay or Amazon and it keeps coming back.

And YES I cleared my bloody cache and temp file. What the hell?

I was just wondering... in every paradox theory they say you can't travel back in time (or shouldn't), because let's say if you accidentally do something to kill your parents, then you wouldn't be born, therefore negating your existence and the ability to even travel back in time in the first place.

But who is to say that your parents have to be your parents to make you "you" exactly? What if you accidentally do kill you parents, but you were supposed to exist in the first place? Maybe you wind up with totally different parents and suddenly you find yourself with blonde curly hair and your name has changed with slightly different memories of how you might have grown up. What if you were meant to travel back in time in the first place and essentially be two different people?

With the theory of multiple different dimensions and the existence of different universes, it is possible that these may overlap in some ways. With the possibility of so many alternates and replacements, how can a paradox truly exist?

Now, of course I do not ONLY feed her tuna. She is actually over 15 years old and in great shape. Lately she's been barfing more than she used to, and I figure it's because she can't quite reach the places she used to clean herself and things get clogged up in there more than usual.

But my question is: is it bad to feed cats tuna? It's just a heaping spoonful now and then (maybe 3 days a week max) for dinner/snack, otherwise she eats Indoor Purina Cat Chow, which she has for at least 5 years now. Sometimes I put a tiny amount of flax seed oil or even olive oil to help with her hairballs, and that seems to agree with her. But is there something that says a little canned tuna here and there bad for a kitty?

Where can I go and chat about Star Trek?

Har har har trolls, but I'm serious. I'm bored and smart and I wanna wax Trek.

For the 8th year in a row, my good friend throws an "All Ladies Xmas Bash". 30 - 40 ladies get together at her house. It is a pot luck, we have a numbered gift-exchange, and we all drink a LOT of wine. But I am torn by something that occurred this year and I'm wondering what would have been more appropriate...

At this party we are all supposed to dress to the hilt - nice dresses, high heels, etc. One of the ladies I know happened to bump into another girl and get red wine spilled all over her blouse. Annoyed, she took it off (wearing an undershirt), and rinsed it out, hanging it to dry. As it was drying, yet ANOTHER girl dumped an entire glass of wine all over her undershirt too! We were all about to start the gift exchange and take pictures. At this point, she asked the host if she could borrow a blouse. I know them both separately and they do not know each other very well. The host was too busy to help her, and never did give an answer. On this point, I would take the side of the host because why lend clothing to a stranger, honestly?

However, she then asked if she could toss her wet blouse in the dryer. Since it is a potluck, the way her house is arranged is that the tables set up for food is in front of her water heater and washer and dryer next to the kitchen. It would have been a bit of a hassle to move the food tables to use the dryer. So, about using the dryer the host says: "I have too much to deal with here! I'm sorry!" and walks away.

Um, is it me? Everyone else was having a great time. The other gal did not spill this on herself. Had I been the host, I would have made the effort to help her dry her things. Other ladies surely would have helped and sympathized.

Was it more appropriate for the host to attend to her house rather than just one person? I am not biased because I like both ladies. I understand both points of view but what is your opinion?

I have known people very allergic to sulfates - so they cannot drink wine, not can they eat shellfish. I eat shellfish all the time and do not experience these results.

First off, I like wine, although I maybe drink wine a couple of times a month on average. Half the time maybe I have the microbrews if I drink. But nearly any time I drink wine anymore - its almost a visceral reaction; as if I've had coffee - and I need to use the restroom! Right away, too - and its not that I have runny actions, even. I hate to be graphic, but I've gone all over the internet and haven't found much in this way...

Anyway, even if this does not happen (which is doesn't always, and even the urge is controllable), when I do - it's GREEN. I cannot figure it out! What is even weirder is that it will appear right away - within an hour of drinking wine. Never beer. And I do not drink every week. How can this possibly happen?? It is only red wine and I am learning that evidently it does not agree with me, but why does it turn my poop green (for a day or two at times, if not even right away)??? Also, I quit drinking white wine because it gets me REALLY drunk like liquor does, and it never gave me the "green". But never white wine. I drink the good stuff too - not box wine or cheapy beers when I have a brew. I drink moderately which is why I have noticed this. Is this dangerous? Ive tried to look it up but I don't know what it means?

For some reason I cannot click on any of the buttons. I cannot view the settings to my account. The search button doesnt even work (but I just get around that by pressing enter). I AM logged in and everything, and I am able to click on links (except the "show more" link under the video in the description - that doesnt seem to work either). But the "like" button doesnt do anything (except appear to change when I click on it as IF it is working), the "share" button does nothing, and I am unable to leave comments. There is simply no button whatsoever to even be able to leave comments and it doesnt do anything when I type and hit enter either.

Id love to comment on friend's videos, but it has been this way for months. I am having the same trouble in Firefox as I am in IE. I typically use Firefox and I have 5.0 and the latest version of Adobe Flash installed and everything. I figured it might be some youtube personal settings but of course I cant get in there because the drop down for the button doesnt work.

I dont have this trouble on ANY other website. What could the problem be?

is it:

if ($isAllowed === FALSE)

or

if ($isAllowed == false)

What are the triple equal signs used for in the first statement? Is there any such operator?

Also, does it matter whether the "false" is capitalized or not?

Thanks!

He is 43 and I am 33. Over the last say, 8 months or so things havent been so great. Weve been fighting, trying to make things work. One good week, one bad week - up and down. We dont live together and a lot of this Ive contributed to his excessive drinking which just started pretty bad about a year ago and has gotten out of control. He even went to the doctor for chest pains, but it turned out to be hypertension and stomach issues. I stayed with him for a week and played nurse maid and then inexplicably didnt see him again for nearly 2 weeks until just before he went on vacation with his family for 5 days.

When he came back, we had lunch the next day. He told me he did a lot of reflecting when he was there and he really needs to focus on himself. Tone down his drinking, stop smoking pot, pay more attention to his son, and focus on his business - and that it would be better for he and I to focus more on our friendship and the way things used to be (we were just friends for years and recently got together 2 years ago). I was glad for him, but dismayed that we couldnt be going through this period together. But in many ways I do understand how trying to maintain a relationship while going through such a transition could be distracting.

He said he still loves me and not to worry because we will still hang out etc, and gave me a smooch and a big hug when he dropped me off. Weve texted every day since then - this was just last Monday - but my invitations for lunch and just about everything else other than "good morning" or "have a good day" go unanswered.

We have the same friends and I am close with his family, and I am certain he is not seeing anyone else or anything. I love him so much and I miss him terribly. I dont want to push him away, but I dont want him to think I have moved on or have lost interest. Last night I finally texted him "do you want me to just leave you alone?" and he replied "wtf are you talking about, its cool and were cool".

Ice cold is more like it. I text him only 4 times a day little messages like "I still love you and I hope youre having a good day", or "mmm chinese food and a movie! good times!" But I usually never get a reply even to those things. Should I just stop contacting him and wait for him to come to me? I want him to know I still love him - and this is really tough for me. He used to be my best friend. What should I do?

Weve been dating almost 2 years - the last few months we see each other maybe a couple of times and then not for a week! We live in the same place - very close. What the heck??

I even considered that he was seeing someone else. I have NEVER looked at another person's phone and I have done so over the last couple of months. Nothing! I know his family, I know his friends... we were friends before we ever got together. I know all the people he seems to call and text. We dont live together and he isnt smart enough to delete anything otherwise. He doesnt hide his phone either.

I have no idea what is going on! He picks fights with me sometimes when we are supposed to get together so now we never see each other. I am heart broken.

We havent seen each other in a week again and were supposed to have lunch. He was supposed to call me this morning but not having heard from him I called him around lunchtime and he said he was on his way. I said I wasnt ready because I hadnt yet heard from him and apologized for the miscommunication to which I got "well you dont ******* LISTEN" (wtf??!!) and that he was too busy and would call me for dinner instead. I never heard from him. I went to his house and found him passed out on the couch and put him to bed. He was so out of it I dont think he knew I was there. I left a note.

Is he on drugs??? I dont know what to even think anymore. Or what to do...

I have read that nails can be a telling sign to one's health. I used to get my nails done (fake nails, just white tips) for years. I fugured out how to save money and do them myself. I dont use a drill or file them down (as far as thinness) or anything, so I tend to have to do a lot of fills and replace them every month. Still, it beats paying a lot of money to go in and get them done and I sort of enjoy having my own "spa time" every couple of weeks too!

Ok so - the last several months I have been noticing something very strange - my thumb nails have a straight and very prominent line going right down the center from the base to the tip. My nails are not yellow, bowed, pitted, ridged - or any other thing I have been concerned about and looked up about diseases and nails!

But now Im concerned because they have not gone away for months. Last year they were there and I decided to remove my fake nails since I was going fishing and camping all the time. I thought it was a result of the fake nails. It never grew out. I did fake nails again. Took them off for some months. They grow very fast but as still the same! Just my thumbs? I have had no accident. I dont seem to have any health issues...

Could this be a warning sign of something? I have googled everything I know about nails and health and nothing seems to match. Im not sure to be worried or what?

Kind of a bit graphic, but a valid question - but my friend told me about a girl he dated who had a "toolbox" under her bed and one thing she liked was a hammer handle in her butt while he was there in her lady bits. My question to him was "and that didnt weird you out???" - to which (classically) he replied "wasnt my ***" - albeit hilarious, it begs the question:

How far would you go for a person in a sexual nature, so long YOU werent "the target"? For example: if they said "stick your finger in my ears!!" - as odd as it might be, most of my friends say, sure, they'd do that, why not... but I wonder - how far would someone go to please a partner?

a. cannot be odd in any way and has to match my standards exactly

b. sure, I'd try pouring ketchup on someone's head if they asked so long as it wasnt me getting the ketchup on my head

c. I'd try almost anything so long nobody finds out about it

d. whatever, I'd try anything once as long as it isnt illegal

Just broke up with the ex a few weeks ago. The thing is, we were best friends for over a year before we ever got together. I am 33 and he is 44 years old. When we finally got together I never thought anything could be so great! We were already so close and I have never felt more in love...

But the last six months have been total hell. He flips out constantly about everything and the last couple of months has taken to calling me horrible names and screaming in my face - once even in public! His personality has changed so much that I even considered the possibility that he might be on drugs or is having some kind of mid-life crisis, although he talks down about using drugs and his business is making more money than ever before. I dont even know why I put up with it for as long as I did. I had finally had it. The bad finally outweighs the good.

But I cant stop thinking about the "good" - all the wonderful things he's done for me and the good and wonderful things I love about him. I am really missing him right now and I know he'd likely take me back in a heartbeat, but it's not as if he's told me he would change or even apologized for any of his behavior. So the saga will more than certainly continue.

I used to be so sure of myself and so independent. But its getting late and Im sure my friends are pretty sick of hearing me struggle with this the last few weeks. I really just need some words of wisdom or a slap on the hand so I dont do something stupid like text him. Its pretty pathetic, I know, but I could really use the support from ANYONE right now. Thanks...

Background: I am 33, he is 44. We dont live together. We have been dating over a year and were best friends for the year before that. But lately he has been moody and verbally abusive. He tells me its because "I push his buttons", so I am wondering if this is one of those cases... Is this "pushing someones buttons" and do I deserve such a response??

I went grocery shopping and left my lights on the other day like a dork - when I loaded my bags and went to start my car, the battery was dead. Duh! It was only 12:30 in the afternoon so I guess because its winter I had the habit of flipping the headlights on and forgot to turn them off.

Me: "Hey sugars, I left my lights on while I went grocery shopping and I think I need a jump, can you help? Im a dumbass, blah blah oops..."

Him: "Isnt there anyone in the parking lot that can maybe help you?"

Me: "Well, its noon on a Tuesday and most folks are at work, there are nothing here but a lot of old ladies, so not really. Plus its really cold, I dont really want to go walking around in -"

Him: (sounding exasperated) "Cant you at least go in and ask the manager or something?? I am sitting with [some guy] in [some bar] talking business right now. There has to be someone who can help you."

Me: "Nevermind". Click.

So I decided to try and call another friend instead who I knew wasnt working that day and had jumper cables. Meanwhile, I get this voicemail:

Him: "Well I WAS going to come and help you I guess, but since you decided to be a ******* ***** I GUESS YOU CAN JUST DO IT BY YOURSELF!!!"

I didnt reply. As I was waiting he then texted me a pic of himself flipping me off with the headline "selfish *****" - however THAT makes sense??

His third and final "eff you" message promoted me to finally text him "nevermind, a REAL man is here" - which was kinda mean maybe but at that point I thought he deserved it. Plus, I would think it was true. A real friend who happened to be a man came and helped me when it was my supposed boyfriend who could have done so in the first place. I know I probably antagonized him with that comment and it wasnt right - but on the other hand I felt like he deserved it. What was all the name calling for to begin with?? What was the eff you stuff and the "selfish" stuff about?? WTF???

Ive never needed a jump before or had that happen to me. So why was it such a pain in the butt in the first place? Was it ok that I just said screw it and hung up because he was reacting that way, or should I have gone and got the manager? Or begged him to come and get me? Or not hung up on him?

I just dont get it. Ive always been the type of gal that gets along with the parents of the boyfriend. Ive even been the woman to get along with the ex wives! I even get along great with my boyfriend's ex wife. But HIS mom is proving to be a different story... She constantly likes to take little 'digs' at me in these little subtle ways. At first I wasnt even sure if she was intending to insult me, but over this last year Im quite sure of it now. And she only ever does it when he isnt around, so for a long while I have kept this to myself. But after this Thanksgiving and Christmas and New Years, Ive had it!

I have a great career, Im well educated, and I totally love her son. I can accept the fact that she is just maybe one of those moms that think that no one will ever be good enough for her little boy. Now, my man is not a "mommas boy" or anything - and this last time I finally said something back to her which created kind of a fight. Like a good man, he tried to settle things between us, but ultimately took MY side. Now we arent going over for dinner like we do every wednesday, more like every other week, etc, and I feel guilty like I put friction between them.

I only wanted to stick up for myself. I didnt want to put him between myself and his mom and I feel bad. While I think it was sweet that he stuck by my side and he understands that his mom is in the wrong, I still want them to talk and Ive told him that. But it doesnt seem to have resolved anything. Im sure now she resents me more than ever too. How can I help smooth over this situation?? help!