Anji

My husband turns to my Blogs and history researches or activity on the computer to to try to understand me. I wish we could just sit and talk without either one of us get angry or it end with him done discussing things or walking away. Whenever I tell him how I feel , I feel like he gets mad at my feelings and when he tells me how he feels I am quick to justifying myself if it has to do with me...what the heck is going on?

Im a mother of four and been with my husband for 5 years. My husband works full time,I am a Personal Care Attendant full time and not only am I cleaning bottoms at home, but at work too.He usually gets 2 days off a week and most of those days I have off too. I get to have "me time" every other week, or on occasion once a week. My husband doesnt mind, but does sometimes say it disappoints him that I dont stay at home with him. I tell him to go take time to himself, but he says he rather stay home and spend time with me all the time. When I do go out I hang out with my married friends, or a family member.

Am I wrong for wanting time alone and he doesnt. Should I feel guilty? And how often should the average married mother of a handful get time alone?

I have been with my husband for a little over five years. In the beginning we use to have "it" all the time. Since our two children plus mine..which is 4 and work and cooknig and cleaning and getting once a week if that to myself, I am not in them mood all the time and its starting to feel more liek a chore than a pleasure because he gets mad if I dont give it up and I get the cold shoulder....why?